After getting back from church, some thoughts flashed through my mind. Happenings in the past actually, that I would be writing about in this article.

The first story happened when I was younger. I was walking home from an errand and I saw a guy whose face was vaguely familiar, but I couldn’t remember where I had seen him. He called me a name and smiled jeeringly at me. I was ashamed. You might be wondering why? Okay, let’s go way back again. When I was much younger, I was probably 5/6 years old then. Yeah, I have memories as far back as that, it still surprises my mum when I tell some things I remember from my early past. So, back to the story, my aunt was staying with us then, it was one afternoon and my aunt caught me and our neighbour’s son doing mummy and daddy stuffs on his parents bed. Gosh! I remember being flogged and threatened with pepper. Picture that if you want to.
So, this dude that I saw called me by the name of my neighbour’s son, and it all came flashing back to my mind. I then realized he was one of the many neighbours in the compound.

The second story is about one of my siblings that used to bedwet. Whenever this person was being stubborn or we had an argument, our winning weapon would be to use the bed wetting card. We always won as the person would not want friends to know of the bed wetting situation.

Which brings me to this, as humans we tend to enjoy reminding people; friends and family about their past wrongs to put them down and make them feel embarrassed. Funny thing is, people who have a long list of past wrongs often do this more, probably as payback. Of course, I have done this too. Nigerian mothers actually top this list. I saw a show last week about Juliet Ibrahim and her ex boyfriend who cheated and how fans were crucifying him. I’m not saying what he did was right, my point is, the deed is done, the person is sorry and has apologized. There’s no need to keep reminding people of what they’ve done wrong and rubbing it on their faces at every opportunity we get. It really could be demoralizing. We all have done some stuffs in the past that we’re not proud of and wouldn’t want to be reminded every second. I strongly believe in this, whatever I wouldn’t accept, I wouldn’t do to others.

Now, how do I end this? Okay, I saw a movie this afternoon, “Wonder” and I’ll leave you with these words that I picked from the movie, “Be kind for every one is fighting a hard battle!”

A big thank you to Obaloluwa, my friend and editor. I really appreciate you and I owe you big time!

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