Holla! How are you doing today? A few days to the end of 2019, I thought about writing on forgiveness and letting go of the past. I had it all figured out, I knew how I wanted to start and end the write up. That very day, someone who did some hurtful things to me in the past reached out to me and riled up some emotions I thought I had overcome.

Thinking about it now, I couldn’t help but laugh at myself and the irony of it all. However, as I like to do, I think I learned one or two things from that.
One of which is, moving on from the hurt doesn’t mean you’ve forgiven the person. Of course, I thought I was okay. I had almost totally forgotten this person existed, I hardly even remembered the person. The few times that I had flashes of what happened, I’d be like “It’s in the past, and it can’t happen again”.
Also, forgiveness and letting go of the past is easy in theory but actually, it is another ball game in practice. I heard a message by T.D Jakes titled “Let it go” some years back, about letting go of one’s anger, pain, shame, disappointments.

The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.
Steve Maraboli

Let it go! But it’s so not easy! It took that person texting me to really find out I had not let go. I feel like I’m whining and complaining right now. But that’s not the point I’m getting to. My point is, after I received that message, I knew I had forgiven. I felt lighter, I had gotten rid of the pain and all but I didn’t want to associate with that person anymore.

Letting go of the past is a process, very slow if I may add. But those baby steps help you feel lighter! Who else has noticed that getting angry only hurts you and not the person it’s directed at. You feel heavy and weighed down.

Some of us think holding on makes us strong, but sometimes it is letting go.
Herman Hesse

To you, reading right now, it’s more stressful resenting that person, it really is, just let it go.
I love music and writing about ‘letting go’ reminds me of two songs. The first is “I forgive me” by Fiya & James Fortune. Some of us can’t forgive ourselves for allowing people to hurt us, just let it go.
The second song is “Let it go” from the animation, Frozen. Let it go, don’t hold it in anymore!

Cheers to baby steps and letting go!

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