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Uncle, stop touching!

In frame: Me

Hi there! I hope this post meets you well!

This post is about touch and I’m glad that social distancing has made us reduce touching and of course, keep our hands to ourselves, yep I am!

Have you ever wondered why some people say/shout or even scream, “Don’t touch me!”? You probably sneered at them and made rude remarks about how they easily get edgy or how a little touch can arouse them sexually. If you ever thought that way, that was most probably shallow of you! Have you considered to wonder why they say so? Have you stopped to consider how uncomfortable they might be with these unnecessary touching? These are questions for your thoughts!

I was watching the Season 2 of the series “Sex Education” and I got to the episode where the girls were in detention and were talking about unwanted sexual attention from the opposite sex and then I knew I just had to write about it because many of us have had our share of experiences and they have in one way or another affected us. The black girl quoted that “statistically 2,000 girls have experienced unwanted sexual attention or contact in public places before the age of 21.”
When I was in Junior secondary school, I had just started having breasts when our neighbor’s uncle pressed my breast when I gave him a side hug to greet him. Of course, I was hurt. That same period, a grown-up man peeped at me while I was taking my bath in the bathroom.
Fast forward to senior secondary school, on my way to pay my school fee before going to school, I took a taxi, I was the only one in the car and I was seating at the front seat. The elderly taxi driver touched my breast twice.
I was at a pharmacy sometime ago, and a guy and his friend were talking and he was gesticulating with his hands and anytime he dropped his hand, it hit my bum. It happened the first time, I concluded it was a mistake, and then it happened the second and third time and I blew up! I mean did he not feel that his hand was hitting something?! I told him to keep his hand to himself and stop hitting me and the dude was all defensive and insulting saying I was proving that I could speak English, ha! I probably would have handled the situation better now but that was that!
Okay, this post is becoming a rant! Right?
My friend and I were talking about this touch thing. Someone respectable had just hugged her and his hand lingered at her back. He had made her feel uncomfortable. This same man had made me feel so too. A male friend of ours was with us when we were discussing this. And he asked us if it was because we really didn’t like the man. And that wasn’t true!
To those who also do not respect personal space, always coming too close, what is your problem? I was talking to a guy who I guessed his love language is touch and he was literally poking me in my chest while crowding up on my space, I had to caution him. In this time and age, you’d have thought people would know better!

Does it mean that I don’t like hugs or shakes or even hold hands? No! I like that, but when I say don’t touch me, please respect that. When someone tells you to give them space please respect that. That lingering hand after a hug or handshake, pls make it unlinger.
Finally, if they are not comfortable with you touching, pls respect that. I’m not saying this for myself but for a lot of people. And if she says No! It doesn’t mean yes! Thank God for social distancing, everyone is keeping their hands to themselves! And say, we could learn from this.

I really would love to know what you think. Do well to like and follow.

Always,

Your petite sweetheart. Ciao!

priscaoa

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36 responses to “Uncle, stop touching!”

  6. This is so good to read.

    Thank you so much for the awareness. We must really be watchful of people who want to use our bodies for their sexual pleasure. It’s a pity.

    May the world be healed!

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  7. Nice read,
    Sad this happens to a lot of ladies..
    Hopefully more ladies will be encouraged to speak up!
    It’d nice to see a support system where vulnerable people can find their strength to stand up to things like this.
    Until that happens, we must continue to confront the aggressor with the same aggression, speak out and fight if necessary.

    Happy social distancing prisca😄
    Remember to wash your hands!

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  8. Great write up Prisca!
    Kudos
    I think people need to understand this things.
    It would do everyone a whole lot of good.

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  14. Great Article, the male folks are also victims of this, but it’s always wise and right to speak out when in discomfort with Events such as this.

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  15. I’ve always thought to keep hugs minimal with the female folk, like you mentioned, one never knows when the hugs get uncomfortable and embarrassing. Guys sometimes forget ladies aren’t “pals”. ( we can shake hands multiple times

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  16. I’m so sorry you’ve had to through these experiences, as you have rightly said more people need to understand that no! or stop! Does not in any way mean you should try harder.
    Sexual harassment is so rampant and the normalization of such makes it even more sickening.

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